Every ceremony is different, and every couple has their own story of how it all led to putting a “ring on it”.
The ceremony sets the tone for you and your guests for the entire day, therefore getting your ceremony right is a huge deal for me as a celebrant -it’s a must.
Couples are often of the belief that personalising your vows is the only way to make their ceremony personal and memorable. As a marriage celebrant one of the questions I often get asked is, is it essential to personalise your vows?
Well the simple answer is no. There are many ways to make your ceremony unique and heartfelt that doesn’t involve personalising your vows.
Here are some clever ideas I’ve seen done at weddings recently that have added that special and unique touch:
- Rather than go for a traditional reading, ask someone who knows you and your fiancé well to write a short story about the two of you. This will add a personal touch to the ceremony and make the service more meaningful to you and your guests.
- Ask a special someone to pronounce you as husband and wife– as much as I love doing this as part of the service after you say your vows, I’d happily hand over the mic to someone that means a lot to you to have that special honour. Kids often get a great kick out of this, and it can lead to cuteness overload and a barrel of laughs!
- Ask a friend or family member to step in and conduct your ceremony. You will still need an authorised celebrant to be involved on the day to oversee all the necessary paperwork and to ensure all the legal aspects of the ceremony are said to solemnise the marriage, but there’s no reason why you can’t ask someone to do all the introductions, readings and any other elements to the ceremony that make it “your own”. The celebrant will step in when needed to say the legal stuff that’s required to make the marriage valid. Be careful whom you ask though, for some people, the thought of standing there in front of a large audience and running the show would scare them to death, but if you know someone whom you think would love this task, put it to them.
- Include a cool ritual – something that reflects you and your cultural heritage. One couple that I am working with have chosen to have a family member present them with a small shot of schnapps to drink during their ceremony in recognition of their German heritage.
Remember, your ceremony is an opportunity to inject your own style and uniqueness into your wedding, and celebrate who you are as individuals and a couple. Make it your own and have fun with it!
As a celebrant, I love talking about all things wedding related and assisting couples with ideas on how to make their ceremony memorable. As part of my celebrancy services I offer all couples an obligation free meeting as a chance to chat about you and your ideas for your wedding, get to know each other and decide if I’m the right celebrant for you.
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